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I find this a difficult thing to address, Michael. But very intresting. Consolation. I go back to last year, i.e. when my only son was diagnosed with an incurable blood desorder and had to undergo surgery. I went there and mostly just sat. In his room at the hospital. I was quiet.... I prayed that all the resources available to him come forward ....... and my usual prayer: O Thou, closer than his very pulse.... Guardian and Observer of all.... Hold him in the Womb of Essential Unity.... and Respond to his need. But I had nothing wise to offer. I was just there. And apparently, it really helped.
When he was first diagnosed I went to San Antonio.... and again, just sat near him, drawing or praying or reading while he slept. It helped he said, to open his eyes and see me there, watching over him.
But, what to say to console..... simply for the loss of a pet? People in my booth... strangers.... I sometimes cry with them and just hug them deeply because I so love my dogs.....I never ask God for favors, fix this, cure that, make another thing go away..... I do pray that consolation come for them from the Mystery if that is what is needed...... But life is not fair.... as my son says to his 10 year old, or we would ALL be living in grass huts. We have a terrible time enduring loss, pain, anguish, guilt..... but to put bandaids on is futile and I can't stand the formulas anyway. I try not to distract myself from pain when I suffer. But others may need to.... Hugs are good.... Love works..... Compassion of course..... but there is, alas, much truth to what another old swami said: Sit on your hands and hurt. You just have to consume the realness of it and eventually process it.
I'm not very consoling am I? Sorry Michael...... But, I really do try to connect. Its the best I know how to do..... Lovingly, Raiyan
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